Sin Broncas con La Bronca: When your family doesn’t like your partner (part two)

• Sin Broncas con La Bronca brings you the second part of when your family doesn’t like your partner.
• This time, we talk about types of mothers-in-law.
• Surely there are others, but here we bring you the ones you’ve probably seen.

Previously, La Bronca and Cony Peña discussed what happens when your partner’s family doesn’t like you, and mostly focused on generalities of the mother-in-law, but she’s not the only family member.

Now, before continuing with this important woman, it’s mentioned that siblings could also generate conflicts.

Siblings, they say, tend to compare or compete on some issues depending on the type of relationship they have with the partner. This competition may manifest in competitive attitudes.

For example, it could be that, as they say, at a gathering this competitiveness is quite evident in the form of who cooks better or who is better at organizing everything. Let’s go back to the mothers-in-law now.

Types of mothers-in-law

To start this section, La Bronca recounts that, on one occasion, the guy she was dating suggested it would be a good idea to have lunch at his house and introduce her to his mother as well.

She didn’t think it was a bad idea, so they went to eat. When they arrived at the house, the first thing the guy’s mother said to her was that if they were going to eat, they should do it outside because she had just cleaned the kitchen.

La Bronca didn’t know how to react and they just went to the patio, a place that the mother had said would be fine to eat. When they went to that place, the guy was embarrassed and suggested they eat in the car instead.

Due to the lack of maturity, she thought it would be good to remain silent, but later she understood that it was better to leave because it was a situation she didn’t want to endure.

The meddling mother-in-law

When the mother-in-law tells you or tells your partner, «to me, she doesn’t dress properly,» «does she work in that? Why?» or comments like that, you’re dealing with a meddling mother-in-law.

They are basically the ones who want to dictate what to do or who give your partner the best suggestions or question what you do without knowing anything about it.

Cony says she had a mother-in-law of this type. She used to work with her father in some nightclubs. Once, with a guy she was dating, her then mother-in-law made an observation.

«That’s not a wife’s job,» to which she didn’t respond. She realized she was dealing with a mother-in-law who would be difficult to handle and preferred to simply distance herself.

The overbearing one

This refers to the type who wants to always be involved in everything. Although their intentions might be good, they don’t necessarily communicate it well.

It could be that they also want to spend time with their son, but in a way that’s too demanding and doesn’t allow him to be with you.

It could also be that they always want you to be with them or that they don’t give you your own space or allow you to have other activities.

Again, not necessarily a bad mother-in-law, just someone who might not handle their emotions well towards certain situations or events.

The victims

You’ve probably heard of this type. These are the dramatic ones who create a scene or feel attacked most of the time by any event.

They only need an excuse to feel attacked or hurt to dramatize everything to a great degree.

Both admit they’ve had this woman in one relationship or another and even for the strangest situations, they’ve been able to create a scene worthy of a sad movie.

From a glass of water to cleaning, although there might be reasons why certain situations happen, it doesn’t mean that everything should complicate certain matters.

The manipulators

Here, Coni herself admits she’s been a mother-in-law of this type. Many times, wanting to protect the little ones, who are already so grown up, one makes sincere comments that could be a bit off.

Peña says that sometimes she has felt that a girlfriend won’t be good for her son because she feels that something just doesn’t quite fit, and that’s when she tells him she doesn’t like her at all.

But in no way is she the type who wants things to be done her way for the lives of her loved ones, which is indeed a negative attitude for anyone.

So, when they want control to be with them and their will to be done, you’re dealing with a manipulative mother-in-law and you should take precautions to determine what comes next.

The one who still thinks she has a child

The mother-in-law who thinks your partner needs certain care and has to have his food at a certain time and that you have to take care of him like he’s the most precious thing in this world.

There’s also the other extreme, where your partner believes he is still a child and that mommy is never wrong and doesn’t give you your place.

While it’s normal for mothers to worry about loved ones, it doesn’t mean they have to be there every hour and every moment, as that’s too extreme.

Of course, there are mothers-in-law like this, and it’s not that mothers don’t have their loved ones in mind, it’s about understanding that they’re adults now and can take care of themselves.

The one who poisons your partner against you

The last type of mother-in-law is the one who wants your partner to have conflicts with you. The attitudes can be very subtle or extremely obvious but the end goal is the same.

The reasons why this happens could be many, but the important thing is to identify that it’s happening and it’s not just an idea in your head.

One of the most common reasons is simply that your partner’s mother doesn’t like you, which may not have a clear origin.

Determining and identifying if it’s not your imagination will simply help you make a decision of whether you want to deal with it or simply say that it will never end and it’s better to stop now. Sin Broncas con La Bronca says goodbye for now and awaits you in the soon-to-come final part. Until next time!